new blog

i'm starting a new blog. clean slate. working towards more fiction and actual creative writing than where this blog ended up going. hopefully will update daily.

check it out here.

you've got to let love rule

So the law just passed that allows the re-writing of the California Constitution to ban gay marriage. the "yes" campaign said they were "protecting family" and the church; but i think they were wrong. the church was not going to be legally affected by gay marriage. they claimed they'd be sued if they refused to perform marriage ceremonies for single-sex couples, but those are just laws we already have in place against discrimination; they claimed that kids would be taught gay marriage in school, but this Proposition had nothing to do with schools or education either, and i'm saddened to think that children being taught equality and tolerance is such a threat to the moral fabric of our society. they even went so far as to claim that two men getting married or two women getting married would be a threat to marriage as an institution. This means that men who beat their wives, parents who neglect or abused their children, or men who ordered brides over the internet would have more rights, their bond considered more sacred, than two men who have been together for over twenty years. to me, marriage wasn't at stake here; humanity and equality was. Last night, in California, both of them lost.

There is a separation between church and state in this country, and i'm disappointed that people couldn't make that distinction in the voting booth yesterday. i could take a man to a church. we could have a wedding ceremony with a priest presiding over us, we could drink the wine and eat the bread, say our vows and look out to see our friends and family watching; but that still wouldn't make us married. nope, not until we went to city hall and signed that marriage certificate. that's the law.

maybe i'm just jaded. i live in the tiny microcosm of san francisco where there are so many gay people and straight people that no one seems an outcast and no one seems unnatural. sure, there are the assless leather chaps that roam my streets, and my favorite stationary store has now become a dildo vendor; but that's just an over-sexualized response to a society that tries to tell gay people that who they are and what they do is not "natural" (don't underestimate the pervasiveness of straight sex in our culture either). In my community, there are also couples who are committed to each other, who have fallen in love with each other, share similar values and dreams with each other, met each other's families and have even been together for almost as long as my parents. the fact that we will now be writing into the california constitution words that say that their love is unnatural and ILLEGAL is just so many steps in the wrong direction.

we have just made history by voting a black man as president. he won the popular vote by a landslide. in fact, he *lapped* McCain. while no one knows for sure whether barack obama can fulfill any or all of his promises, we are clearly more than willing to let him try, and god bless america for that. but for as far as we've come, we still have a long way to go as a society. 40 years ago, a black man and a white woman could not marry. to me, preventing a man from marrying a man he loves is the same kind of discrimination. i know that is a controversial statement for some, and i have heard the rebuttal "you can't choose your race". well, in my book, you can't choose who you love either. love chooses you.

but we have to believe in the change that obama has inspired. we have to believe that we have the power to "bend the arc of justice" in our favor. so while we may have lost the fight now, i hope that we may never lose our faith and our hope. so please, stay strong and keep your hope alive. we will get there eventually. yes. we. can.

thoughts on the economic crisis

Investment analyst and entrepreneur Dr. Marc Faber concluded his monthly bulletin with the Following:

"The federal government is sending each of us a $600 rebate. If we spend that money at Wal-Mart, the money goes to China . If we spend it on gasoline it goes to the Arabs. If we buy a computer it will go to India. If we purchase fruit and vegetables it will go to Mexico , Honduras and Guatemala . If we purchase a good car it will go to Germany . If we purchase useless crap it will go to Taiwan and none of it will help the American economy. The only way to keep that money here at home is to spend it on prostitutes and beer, since these are the only products still produced in US. I've been doing my part."

what message are YOU conveying?

this morning, waiting at a stop light to turn into the parking lot outside my work, i pulled up next to this Hummer boasting a bumper sticker that said "I'm a PIG in my S U V".


there's kind of only one type of person you envision when you picture the driver of a Hummer, especially one that brags about it. but this guy was extra special: from four rolled-down windows, he was blasting, not nickelback or some dumb country music anthem, but Dean Martin's You're Nobody til Somebody Loves You.

it was the saddest, funniest thing i've seen in a long long time.

Puns and IM

Tommy: When is National Rabbis Awareness Day?
Tommy: that may not be the illness
Tommy: Spelling?
courtney: Rabies
courtney: unless you mean the day we celebrate jewish holy men
Tommy: little bit of both
courtney: National Rabbis with Rabies Awareness Day?
Tommy: Oh, lets trademark that
Tommy: the cards will be HILARIOUS
courtney: as long as they incorporate the joke "Shaloaming at the mouth"

best overheard quote to date

admin 1: hurry up, i want to go home.
admin 2: i'm just IMing courtney asking her to help with my presentation.
admin 1: what for?
admin 2: i need something funny for it.
admin 1: well, why didn't you come to me?
admin 2: i did, but i asked courtney too.
admin 1: why?
admin 2: she's creative and funny.
admin 1: no, i am.
admin 2: well, you both are.
admin 1: it's kind of my thing.
admin 2: that's why i have asked both of you.
admin 1: you can be the queen of excel spreadsheets, and i will be the queen of entertainment.

"I suppose I've created an atmosphere here where I'm a friend first, boss second. Probably an entertainer third." - David Brent

inappropriate things at inappropriate times

[at the movies]
victoria: you want a gummy bear?
me: no thanks.
[the lights go out and the previews stop]
victoria: [almost yelling] oh please. it'll be the softest thing you've had in your mouth all week.
me: [not to be out done] yeah, ever since your dad started taking viagra.

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sven: it's like bread, only it doesn't rise.
vic: so it's like your dad?

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eric: so he just stood there and dumped all the water in the water reserve onto her. everyone was shocked. stunned. and then my cousin said "well, he told you not to spray him with the water gun." but still. i don't think that gave my dad the right to water rape her.

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andrew: i am the worst person for you to have fallen down the stairs in front of. people are going to think i pushed you.

quotes and such

sarah: check out what she gave me. this big ass cheesy fake gold necklace.
me: wow
sarah: i mean, who the hell would wear this?
me: flava flav.
sarah: oh my god. totally.
me: you should attach a clock to it.
sarah: yes.
me: or take it even further back and attach a sun dial. take it as far back as it can go.
brian: then you should have stonehenge.
sarah: what?
brian: you could have like, a miniature version of stonehenge. on the end of your necklace.

[silence]

me: that was the most brilliant joke i've ever heard.

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bryan: i need your mind.
me: can my tits and ass come too?
bryan: sure. they can ride in the back.

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alexis: she is such a nice girl. so nice; and i don't want to say she's dumb, but...

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sister: how'd you sit out in the sun all day and not get burned?
me: it's my new sunscreen. i love it.
sister: really?
me: it's called "Age Shield". that's why my arm looks 15.
sister: wow.
me: which is why only this other arm can drive.
sister: oh my god.
me: and why i have to wait three years before i can masturbate, lest i get stuck with another statutory rape charge...
sister: i mean...SERIOUSLY!

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i have really bad taste in men

him: so are you going on sunday?
me: yeah i think so.
him: you should just drive
me: i'm going to. no ferry for me
him: bring your sister
me: no, but thanks.
him: why not? she is fun
me: she is but i'm okay going alone.
him: you should just not go. go out to dinner with bryan. spend some time you both will enjoy
me: i really appreciate your opinion on what i should or shouldn't do
him: i learned it from having to listen to you. what do you think?
me: i think you managed to annoy the crap out of me before 9:00 in the morning
him: awww. can't wait till you bring your fun on sunday. i would bring amanda
me: my sister is almost as annoyed by you as i am.
him: amanda has no reason to be
me: right
him: i honestly could care less about the whole thing. i find it funny that everyone on your side has all these feeling of outrage
me: hahaha yeah. we stay up all night writing in our journals about you
him: i dated you for five months and it didn't work out
me: you drive me nuts
him: you shouldn't let it bother you so much


yes. he was serious.

her: i have only ever slept with two american men, and the rest have all been international. i highly recommend italians.
me: wow, your vagina is like a hostel.

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vanessa: guiness in ireland is like...spinach.

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me: it just makes me wonder how you would behave, you know, if you actually had a real job.
inside sales: oh, what, like if i were a lawyer's secretary?
me: oh honey, if only my job were that easy....
inside sales: right.
me: maybe someday you can teach me how to use our phone system...
inside sales: maybe someday you can go fuck yourself.

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andrew: i'm like the telemarketer that talked his way into your life.
me: and then right back out again.

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lin's mom: courtney! you're getting prettier.
me: ...thanks?

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great aunt: you know what i just realized? i have this really big, ugly gawdy ring that i never wear. maybe you'd like it.

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drunk me: hi!
fiddler: hola!
drunk me: do you have any rosin?
[awkward silence]
fiddler: que?

[that one's for my music homies]

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sinoe: we are not friends but he thinks we are. but this is how i give back to Jesus.

the birth of genius

my early work is really quite remarkable. packed with passion and emotive description was i, at the ripe and prodigy-esque age of six - maybe six and a half. my first "short" - as us literary novices say - was entitled "why water's great" and was a creative nonfiction piece about my family's brand new hot tub. it was written for a class project on the conservation of water and, in words too well put together to paraphrase now, i wrote "i like water because it goes in our hot tub and when my daddy sits in it he says 'ahhhh'."

thus began my career as a literary genius.

i was always very good at telling stories. i often spent the entire forty-five minute car ride home from school everyday telling my mother vital life lessons like how to tell time or how to make a hamburger. she never seems to sound inspired when she reminds me of that instance, but i am sure that that has nothing to do with the length it took me to describe one simple action, and everything to do with the fact that my father was more of the chef in my family. yes, looking back on it now i realize that my story was too much for my dear, barbecue-ignorant mother.

my literary pique, however - my joie de vie, if you will - came when i was seven years old after a rather painful incident involving a doorknob, my eye, and the simple act of walking. after months of self-reflection and the healing all too necessary to cope with the emotionally and physically tumultuous experience that is the black eye that followed, i did what any other great writer of my generation would have done and turned to pen and paper to express my pain. the words came easily to me, as they often do. it was as if the tears translated instantly to poetry as they hit the page, transforming a once-blank and stark white piece of paper into the photograph of a young girl's tragic life: "my eye was really puffy and black," i wrote. "it hurt bad." my prose forthcoming, my pain clearly articulated, i added a lifelike illustration - courtesy of crayola - and handed it in, head bowed, to my third grade teacher.

it should be automatically assumed here how well-received my piece of work was. my father even went so far as to display it proudly on the wall inside his cubicle at work. i can only imagine it was so co-workers, as well as mere passersby, could stop, read and admire. he never told me its display was his way of showing off the unmistakable talent which he could then brag had sprung forth from his loins - but i knew that was why. no, instead, my parents told me that i never did in fact walk into a doorknob; that my black eye was merely a detail in a dream i once had - so vivid that, upon waking, i believed it to be real. their commitment to the lie was so steadfast that they even told every dinner guest invited into our home, every cashier at the grocery store, even every teacher i ever had the story of "the time courtney allegedly walked into a doorknob." if it weren't for my keen perception and superior intellect, i would have been humiliated and offended by their denial of such a traumatic experience; but i realized they were simply trying to lesson the devastation, so as not to take away attention from or threaten the soft, young egos of my two, less verbally-gifted siblings.

it is to both my mother and my father that i owe my humble disposition.

and wear sunscreen...

when my father was 60 he was arrested for a crime he committed nearly 50 years earlier and sentenced to death. it seems unfair that at such a late stage in his life, when he had fully atoned for his sins, that he would still be held accountable for actions he committed so long before. at 14, he was young and careless and did things without fully realizing the consequences of his actions; simply put: he didn't know any better. by 60 he was a professional man, had served in the army for his country, raised three morally-sound children and had a wife he looked forward to growing old with. now, because justice apparently had to be served, growing old seemed unlikely. that's the funny thing about cancer: it can lurk forever beneath your bed like some disastrous boogie man just waiting for you to fall asleep.

as a teenager, my father and his family used to vacation up at the russian river, lathering baby oil on their pale, irish skin until it turned a crisp and oaky brown under the summer sun. his parents never yelled at him because back then, they didn't know they had any reason to. cancer waited until life had settled down and had finally become enjoyable before it cast its shadow across my father's face. and just as quickly, it made its way underneath the surfaces of his skin.

my father has been sober for 15 years. the only thing cancer granted me, besides an increased appreciation for my father's life, was the chance to see the effect a substance of any kind had on my father. to go from zero to morphine in less than a month was quite a sight to see. there was the trip to the hospital that resulted in my father performing an impromptu song he had written for his doctor; there was the trip to the hospital where, tired of the repetitive question "reason for visit", he began to answer "hysterectomy"; and most notably, after his first surgery, where we learned that the cancer had already spread to his lymph nodes, there was the ride home in the very somber car when my father announced he had two, very pretty anesthesiologists.

"did you hear that barbara?" he slurred to my mother, "i had - not one - but TWO women on me."

a cancer diagnosis finds you at a fork in the road, where you have two paths to take without any indication of street name or destination. it is another cruel trick cancer plays on you that you only know where you are going when you've actually arrived there. my father's path miraculously ended at Recovery; you can guess where the other road leads.

i go in and out of believing we have any control over our fate. i keep expecting the winds to carry me to europe where i can write all day long and learn a language that makes my tongue move in ways it hasn't before (well, unless i'm trying to impress someone); but inaction doesn't do much for you either. all i can say is that we must always be in constant pursuit of our own personal happiness, provided it never steps on the toes of someone else's. without us, it has no chance to survive.

so fall in love when the mood strikes you, even if it goes awry--start with yourself and work outwards. signal when you're changing lanes and ignore rude waiters--or, for that matter, rude people. have good table manners and keep your kitchen clean. own at least one house plant, even if you can't keep it alive, and always call people back. eat lots of vegetables and send someone flowers when there's absolutely no reason to. send your mother a post card next time you travel.

i don't mean to sound like i know it all, because lord knows i'm figuring this stuff out as i go along; but if there's anything i've learned in my short time here, it's that it's important to give yourself a break once in a while. because the road ahead may present to you its own direction, in direct contrast to all of your intentions; and so you must live in such a way that upon arriving you can say "i have lived, and i lived well."

A#

"what the hell was that?" i ask eric.

it's 10:30 at night and we're making our way towards the bay bridge heading into san francisco. we were, up until two seconds ago, sitting in complete silence. then suddenly, out of nowhere, we both sang the exact same note for the exact same duration of time. the radio is off - there is no song to sing along to. the highway is deserted - there is no visual cue to start us singing.

"i have no fucking clue." he replies.

not yet able to comprehend what just happened, all i can think to do is laugh so hard my eyes tear and i'm sure i'm going to crash into something and kill us both.

"your period isn't due soon, is it?" eric adds. "because if our menses is also in sync, i'm going to freak."

this has only ever happened once before. in ireland of all places. mona, a fellow cellist, and i decided to sit in the audience to watch the piano soloist perform. he is a young italian who doesn't speak english and tried to make out with gabi who was roughly 13 at the time. he is an incredible player. as we sit there listening to him, i am moved by the fluidity of his technique. his sixteenth note runs are so smooth i can't shake the image of ice cream from my head - rich, creamy vanilla ice cream (or, i guess, because he was italian, gelato). at the end of the piece, when we stand to clap, mona looks at me and announces "this might sound really weird, but his playing reminded me of ice cream."

when we told the others, they either didn't believe us, or are less amazed and more concerned. "you guys have been spending too much time together."

"they're just jealous," mona will tell me later.

"that's exactly what i was thinking," i will reply.

i had a cello teacher that hated me; she hated me because every time i saw her i was physically incapable of playing the cello. i would have forgotten how to ride a bicycle around her. when she told me i had perfect pitch, i actually disagreed with her.

"say the first thing that comes to your head," she told me, playing a single note three times on the piano.

"F" i said, just to shut her up.

"and this one?" she said, playing another note.

"i don't know," i sighed, "...B?"

she left the piano and came back to sit next to me. "F# and B♭"

you know what they call perfect pitch that's a half step off? not perfect pitch.

the four years i studied with her, she accused me of studying with another cellist behind her back (false), called me a "money player" (true) and told me i was funny and should "concentrate more on that". she only once said anything nice to me, and amazingly it's probably one of the nicest things anyone has ever said to me. in the middle of playing for her in a lesson, she stopped me to ask if i'd ever been in love. i was fifteen and pudgy at the time, and, embarrassed by the question, shook my head.

"well," she said finally, "you play like you have."

i know, right? nice.

ever since i got back from barcelona, i have done nothing but write and play music. as cheesy as it might sound, i think that when i am so filled with love it only makes sense that it would come out of me as music; music is, after all, love. isn't it? and i am lucky enough to have people in my life with whom i make music, whether it's the way we tease each other, how much we discover we have in common, or those moments where we're so in sync we even share thoughts. that night in the car with eric, if only for a split second, we were exactly on par with each other, and so together, we made music - we even had the A to prove it. or, because i'm a half step off, an A#.

it's late and this might not make any sense, but i'll say it anyway. i feel as though, in a way, i was unlocked by Barcelona.

oh españa...what an awfully long journey i took, just to come home.

barcelona

omar says it's lin's fault and lin says it's omar's fault. but either way we have missed our train to barcelona. after a ridiculously brisk walk to the station with all of our luggage, we arrive just in time to see the train pull away. lin got the time of the train wrong; omar woke up late with a hangover. ergo, i blame them both.

three hours later and we are finally on our way to barcelona. the view from the train is amazing. people say that water is just water, but there is little like the Mediterranean. we are joined by another passenger, a young man from Quebec named Domenic (pronounced, of course, do-men-eek), who is taking 4 months off before starting university to travel around europe. he tells us stories of staying in Provence for a month and eating baby birds after they've been put in a blender and spread on toast. he shows us pictures and even now, as I recall them, my gag reflex is still sensitive. when lin asks him if he sensed any tension from the french because he was quebecian, he replies innocently with a no; but i'll tell you right now, if someone gave me baby bird juice as a meal i would consider it a declaration of war.

we have rented an apartment for three days to be shared by six of us: lin, omar, myself and three other musicians from omar's orchestra. for some reason, though we've made it to our destination, omar is still moving with great speed towards the apartment from the train station. dragging our heavy suitcases down sidewalks and across roads - my hands blistering from my case's hard and heavy handle - i joke that on this day, Good Friday, it is ironic that i am performing my very own station of the cross. and just as Jesus carried the cross to Golgotha only to be nailed to it, I carry my suitcase to a flat in Barcelona only to find the tiniest single bed waiting for me. life is hard for us capricorns.

the apartment

the other three don't join us until the next day, and until they do, there is work to be done.

i gave up shopping for lent. last year it was chocolate and this year it was shopping. before then it was sex, but that was only a joke i made because i never had it anyway. (it would be like giving up stabbing people or hitting on babies). but shopping? i imagine it was as difficult for Fergie to give up meth as it is for me to give up shopping. i walk by shoe stores and my palms itch. the sound of a shirt being folded between sheets of tissue paper and slipped into a carrier bag tears at the worn seams of my soul. during my 40 days of withdrawal i have even tried to redistribute the addiction by getting others to buy things for themselves. I’d send links to friends or family members saying "this would go so well with your [insert piece of clothing here]" or "kill yourself or buy this." for the most part i was successful: my sister nearly had to file for bankruptcy and turn tricks for rent money, but damn would she rack up quite a clientèle in those new high-wasted jeans. on the other side of my catastrophe, i was now the proud owner of a savings account with high interest. i was so good with my money for so long. i had at least two months rent there, which - for san francisco's prices - meant i had about a gajillion dollars; and yet now, here i am staring down the shops of Barcelona, trying to convince myself that it's almost healthy to throw money away, otherwise you become a slave to it. i'm like a zen buddhist only with a fantastic pair of shoes.

as we walk from store to store, i can tell immediately that i am in love with barcelona. the streets are wider, the buildings higher, and the air even feels and smells different - not just from Valencia, but from any other place i've been. the hippest parts of new york city need 100 more years to ripen to earn the right to rub elbows with the alleys we wind through now. i somehow forget that i don't fit in here and feel instead that my willingness to relax in this place transcends any language barrier or cultural difference. this is spain, but not spain. home but not home.

boris, diane and brian, the other three joining us on this trip, arrive at the apartment at almost the exact same time that i announce to lin that i have reached my shopping capacity. she's almost as surprised by my news as i am, but i can't spend all my time in this city inside a store, and i can't spend all that money i'm not quite sure i even have anymore. the dollar is weaker than an orphan with pneumonia. and so, quite frankly, at this point, are my feet.

after dropping my bags off at the apartment, we're off to the Gaudi cathedral to meet the others.

i have been told that boris is crazy, diane is sassy and brian is the envy of most of the girls in the orchestra. when i put the faces to names it all becomes clear. boris, though hailing from canada, is officially the loudest of all of us. i smile because this entire trip i have felt all natives hear my accent and expect me to be some loud, obnoxious american. and here comes boris with his booming voice and incredibly foul language. but luckily, most of the things out of his mouth are either incredibly insightful, or very very funny: standing in a square where hundreds were massacred, boris declares "they must have been trying to outlaw siestas". juxtaposed with his bite, is a young man who has exceptional manners – holding the door open for me or letting me exit an elevator first. it seems small, but it’s noticeable.

diane, his counterpart, is a tiny thing -- unassuming and sweet; but just as you've adjusted to her quietness you are surprised by her brutally sharp sense of humor. when she discovers sunday morning that I am incredibly hungover, she insists i do a shot of tequila with her assuring me it will make me feel much better. she counters boris incredibly well; at least in my humble opinion.

now as for brian, I can’t write too much, lest boris read this and use it as even more ammunition, as part of the tradition of making brian the brunt of every joke (a role brian plays with great humility). but i will say that it is obvious why brian is as popular as his reputation suggests. he is good looking, for sure; but beyond that there is a quiet sensitivity and intellect to him that i can't quite explain. it is very easy to like him, without necessarily knowing all of the things there are to like about him. and while he is funny (you have to be with this group), it is his sinister laugh that makes everything seem even funnier.

lin, omar, boris, diane, brian and myself

i have seen the show friends but i never believed it. six people getting along so well just seems the most ridiculous of fictions; but omar, lin, boris, diane, brian and i prove to be a better ensemble than even nbc's thursday lineup could offer. everyone gets a turn being both the teaser and the teasee, and everyone handles it with grace. there are penis jokes, AIDS jokes, and sex jokes. Boris will comment on how omar is as a lover and brian will call him “omey”, parroting the nickname lin has given for her husband. with the backdrop of barcelona as the set to our scene, it's really too good to be true.

my memory begins to fade that night. we are sitting at a funky little bar in Born, the hip neighborhood the tourists don't yet infiltrate, drinking copious amounts of cava, spain's sparkling wine. before that there was sangria at the basque restaurant just up the alley, and before that there are caipirinhas, a traditional rum drink of brazil. i will do many uncharacteristic things that night, some that i will remember and some that i will not. i will remember the faces that i spoke to, but i will not remember what it was exactly that i said. i will remember my first trip to the bathroom, but i will not remember the trips that followed - leading lin by the hand only for a dance party in front of the mirror. i will not remember announcing to lin that i am smitten with her husband's friend, but i will remember his face; and for that, i am a very lucky girl.

the next morning i will awake almost euphoric, despite the hangover pressing at the corners of my stomach. then lin will come in and start her "remember when you..."s and i will tell her to stop before i become too embarrassed to face my other roommates. apparently at some point in the night i decided i was only going to speak french - a language no one else in the group understands. i am sure it is only one of the many embarrassing things i said that night; i still cringe at the thought. she will tell me that omar drank my last cava, which will make me feel better about myself since it will mean i didn’t drink it, but sorry for omar since he spent most of the night lying by the toilet. "i started yelling at him to come to bed before he passed out there," lin will tell me, "and he said 'shut up! i'm gathering energy.'"

the next day we ascend to park guell – another of Gaudi's creations - before returning to downtown Barcelona to eat mexican food and walk to the beach. we will each take turns trying to purge songs like "eye of the tiger" and "funky town" from our tired minds and we will all fail miserably. we will walk through gypsy towns and euro disney (or at least the boardwalk's pale version of), and while i will have started out the day worried about how the others would treat me after my french escapades the night before (among others), i will find them just as kind as they were the moment I met them.

the world has a weird way of presenting wonderful things in unreachable places at inconvenient times. i want to pack up these people and this city and pull them in closer to the life that i now have to return to, a million worlds away. but instead, all i can take back with me are the memories: the small moments that lin and omar steal to connect when they think no one's looking; omar and his videotaping of our every single move; the landscape, the language; even the split second, drunken flashes of a deep conversation or a new friend whispering that i’m beautiful as i finally fall asleep.

for now, these things are enough to get me by. and keep me very very happy.

greetings, from España

when i arrived in valencia, the sky was on fire. they say at this time of year, nearing the end of their festival Las Fallas, it is the loudest place anywhere in the world outside of an actual war zone. it's true. i totally know what it feels like to live in baghdad now.

i am here visiting my best friend lin, who moved to spain to live with her husband in July of last year as he plays with the Valencian opera orchestra. i am quickly learning the rules of her household, though it is hard to keep up. i have to take my shoes off at the door and put on "house slippers". house slippers are, however, not to be worn on the carpets, and are not to be confused with the slippers i have to wear when out on the terrace. so far omar has counted two strikes i've made against this rule: (1) running to my room from the living room without my house slippers, and (2) walking onto the carpet with my slippers on. i've actually made a third that he doesn't yet know about, where i just put on my shoes getting ready to go, and then popped around the corner for a quick pee before we left. shhhhhh.

indoor shoes

outdoor shoes

my first night here, after dropping off my luggage, showering and having some dinner (finally, after 24 solid hours of traveling), we walked to Cannovas to watch some fireworks. i have never been so close to fireworks before in my life. immersed in a crowd of spaniards, some with disappointingly poor fashion taste (think tan colored snake-print leather coat with shoulder pads (and then stop masturbating from how hot that image just made you)), we finally found an open space for us to stand. (i'm telling you, if you want to find a place to breathe in a crowd full of thousands, walk towards the police van).

the crowd

it has been nothing but fireworks since. you walk through the streets of valencia to children as tall as your knee playing with fireworks, with little care of their tiny fingers or your fragile, flammable face. "Las Fallas" (sounds like fy-us) is the Spanish word for this festival, though it is more commonly referred to in these parts as "Nit del Foc" which is Valencian (the second language of Valencia) for "Night of Fire". Every time Omar refers to Nit del Foc, Lin and I begin to giggle. "It sounds like 'Need to Fuck'," lin will say. "I have a similar festival," i reply, "it happens once a month, and is called 'Ovulation'."

yesterday was the last day of Las Fallas. we started the day going to watch the Mascletá, which is basically the daytime fireworks show. the best part is, there are so many people and the streets are so narrow, the chances of you actually seeing any fireworks are small. the chances of you going deaf, however, are pretty much guaranteed. valencians are very proud of their fireworks. the louder the better, and they listen to the bangs in the sky like one might listen to an italian opera or miles davis. to put in earplugs, or plug your own ears, is looked upon as a great insult, and as an american - and therefore not particularly popular with the locals to begin with - i don't need to do anything to make it any worse. the fireworks are so loud and so close to you that they echo down throughout your ribcage. they say you have to watch them with your mouth slightly agape so your skull can properly distribute the vibrations. or maybe that´s just what they tell tourists so they look like idiots.

the people here speak very fast, and they don´t appear to have time for people who don´t speak their language. luckily omar is pretty much fluent, so i just turn to him when i need anything. i´ll hand him €20 and tell him what i want and send him on his way. i kinda wish i had that back home. except without the giving them money part. i think they´re called...a husband.

i hadn´t really had much time to casually walk around and soak in the city. instead, we rushed from block to block to see every Fallas before they were set on fire. each block has patrons that donate money that go towards an artist or two creating these huge structures, a Falla, that sit at the end of each block. these things are stories and stories high and wide. some depict trannies standing at urinals while others show a big breasted woman in a low cut top about to get bucked off a horse. in other words: classy. they look like disney floats and while people worship them as art here, they have ruined the aesthetic of valencia for me. i may never know what this town really looks like because it is covered in rubble, drunk people, and cartoon paper mache. last night we walked almost 10 miles trying to watch as many Fallas as possible get burned down. i took many many pictures, and looked on with great satisfaction as each Falla disappeared inside an envelop of black smoke and fire.

today, my last day in valencia, we biked to the opera house where omar plays before heading to the beach to eat my first paella. there at the beach, the shore is lined with restaurants and while lin and i admired the beauty of the beach, omar scoffed and said it had nothing on brazil. i guess he missed all the trannies.

not picture: "no chicks with dicks" sign

i will say this only once, so read very carefully: i would fuck paella if it wouldn´t make such a mess. holy crap it was amazing. perfectly softened rice steeped in tomatoes with rosemary, roasted artichokes, broad beans and these big white beans that soak up all the flavor of the sauce. add to that chicken and rabbit, and you have heaven in a wide, thin paella dish. add to that sangria to drink, and you should kill yourself because everything after that is only going to disappoint.

and now i am at home. slowly pecking out this posting on a spanish computer, searching the keys for letters that aren´t where they should be, and pressing keys for symbols i´ve never seen before. i am exhausted, full, and happy. tomorrow morning we take the train to barcelona.

until then, ¡buenas noches!